We get bombarded with the same questions several times a week. Here are the answers to some FAQs:
- Q: Is there a party happening this weekend? Where?
A: Yes, there is a party happening almost every weekend. I am not going to post it publicly, though. These are private, discreet events that you don’t want just EVERYONE to know the details of. If you would like to attend, contact any of the organizers that I have listed in this blog (e.g. VIP, Invite Only, Syn in the City, Couple’s Choice, Couple’s Playhouse).
- Q: I know you said no single males, but I am an attractive single male with a huge dick…
A: I’m sorry, single males aren’t welcome at these events. This blog is not about hookup parties. It is about SWINGING, which by definition, involves COUPLES.
- Q: I know you said no single males, but I’ll pay any price…
A: Many of these events do allow single males in, for a hefty price (~$500 per event). However, it’s really not worth it. I wouldn’t recommend going as a single male, even if it was free. We have been to a few parties where there has been a single male or two, and they are shunned. Regardless of attractiveness, wealth, or relationship status (e.g., a married guy who is there without his wife at the party is still considered “single”), nobody is interested in talking to, much less playing with, single males.
- Q: I know you said no single males, but..
A: NO SINGLE MALES.
Anonymous said: Can you recommend any groups in the Chicagoland area that are single women friendly? Forgive my ignorance, I'm new to this but it's something I've always wanted to do. I'm very interested in how things get started.
All of them! :)
In the lifestyle, we have a word for single females - “unicorns”. Because they are so rare, and so loved!
Most of the events that charge for admission either have a reduced price for single females, or will just let you in for free. You are a rare and desired commodity, and you will just be able to walk up to any couple (or anyone) and say “hi, I’m a unicorn, and I’m new to the lifestyle, can you show me the ropes?” People will be very warm and kind and welcoming, and will not pressure you. It’s really a great atmosphere, you’re going to love it. If you have a more specific question, let me know. Otherwise, good luck!
Anonymous said: Can you be too old?
Never! There are no age requirements. Some groups tend to cater more to a younger crowd, and have events at nightclubs, which, say, 60-year-olds typically don’t enjoy.
I’d say that the Couple’s Playhouse probably has the oldest crowd average, followed by Couple’s Choice. Their events are held in houses, and have more laid-back atmospheres, with finger foods and pool tables (rather than DJs and strobe lights).
rooaboo said: I have tried to leave a comment on two post but when come back to see it my comments have posted they are not there. I don't want my post to show up multiple times because I keep rewriting them. What am I doing wrong?
I’m not sure, this is the first time I am seeing a message from you, rooaboo. Sorry about that :( Maybe you can contact tumblr about your issue? Or, if you just want to get in touch with us, we can also be reached at cuddlepuddle[at]yahoo[dot]com.
Anonymous said: is there any swinger party tonight
There are parties somewhere every Friday and Saturday night. Sometimes on other days as well. I can’t really give you more advice without knowing what you are looking for.
Anonymous said: What is the decorum in regard to safe-sex when swinging? Are most activities typically done covered or are cream fills in fact quite common?
Condoms are the default. You don’t have to ask, you’re just expected to wrap it.
Maybe there are some people who allow creampies, but in my 2.5 years in the scene I have yet to witness that. That would just be idiotic, anyway. These people have slept with dozens (if not hundreds) of strangers! Even if you are swinging with someone you have had sex with before, they (and you) have probably had sex several times since then with multiple people, and you just never know. Especially because STD checks are not required to attend swingers events.
Anonymous said: Any info for south Florida
We’ve never been, so we can’t make any specific recommendations. However, it’s really easy to find groups online. Here are some tips:
- Google swinging in a big city near your area. E.g. “Jacksonville swingers”.
- Make a post on craigslist including a sexy picture of yourselves (faces and/or nudity not necessarily) asking to meet other couples, and asking if there are any organizations in that area.
- Create a profile on a website like swinglifestyle, lifestylelounge, fetlife, or adultfriendfinder.
Anonymous said: EMAIL ME U sound like me and my man
Our email address is firstname.lastname@example.org , if you would like to contact us more privately.
Anonymous said: Have you been to Galleria Domain?
No, we have not! Thanks for the suggestion, we will check it out and post a review. Have you been there? What are your thoughts?
Anonymous said: Hi ..What is the eligibility criteria for participating
Some groups may be more exclusive than others, but the basic requirements are (1) be a male-female couple, or (2) be a single female. That’s it! You can start playing! :)